Question:
My mom won't let me watch anime?
anonymous
1970-01-01 00:00:00 UTC
My mom won't let me watch anime?
Seventeen answers:
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:13:18 UTC
Welcome to the club. I'm 26 and it drives my mom crazy that I still watch cartoons. And not just Anime. I love Chowder and Avatar and stuff!



The most you can do is rent an anime yourself if possible that has good themes and stuff... I can't think of anything right off of my head. But if she's anything like my mom her opinion won't change. In another 2 years you will be 18. Do good in school, get a scholarship/job and move into the dorms at your local college campus.
Lavanya
2011-04-04 20:16:47 UTC
You cannot convince her.



I know your problem, I had the same, but I could hack the programs that my parents were using, so no one could stop me from doing whatever I liked on the Internet.



Well, you may try this approach:

Try with an anime called "Spririted Away", it is created by a famous person, and it received quite a lot of awards. Few years ago, there was an article about it in almost every newspaper. Get you mom to look it up, and maybe you can all watch it together.



After that, you'd have to have a CALM conversation that "anime" are like "movies". They are good and bad ones, violent ones and peaceful ones, and that you don't know unless you start to watch it.



You cannot expect for her to change her opinion. She won't! But you can make her trust you by watching "good" anime. If you need titles, then just start with all animes by Hayao Miyazaki. If your mom will trust you, she'll stop blocking the website, but you'll have to be twice as careful next time, coz you may never get a second chance if she'll see you watching Death Note again XD.
tresk495 MA
2011-04-04 21:19:06 UTC
Unfortunately parents and well people in general are suborn. So even if you had really good reasons why you should be able to watch them she will most likely not listen. Fortunately for you since your sixteen you really only have to wait for two years to watch it. As of the immature remark most Anime are actually rated 14 and up and are just as grown up as movies and tv shows the only difference is that it is animated and not real people but sometimes its better portrayal as an animation rather than a live action. Besides Anime is an art, and they have deep stories. Like Death Note is not about Murder it is about a person that gets power hungry. At the start of the show he did everything by the books and when he first used the Death note he almost had a panic attack and couldn't believe what he had done he felt wrong and guilty. But then he thought what he did was right and so he justified what he was doing because he was getting rid of criminals. But eventually he loses it and starts to kill just because he can and he always claims that its for justice. It shows how power corrupts. Very very awesome show by the way. One of my favorites.

I hope you do continue to watch Anime if that does make you happy , you should get to do things that make you happy.

Anyway good luck.
Natalie_Grains
2011-04-04 21:15:54 UTC
Lots of the time when people diss anime for being too violent, they forget that pretty much all American movies and TV have the same amount of that, it's just not animated. Example, my friend said anime is way too violent, then she went and watched the new episode of Law and Order that had tons of rape and killing. If your mom watches TV shows or movies that have violence in it, you can use that in your defense (why is it okay to watch real people die gruesome deaths but not in anime?)



Also sit your mom down and show her some children's anime. Make her watch some Hamtaro and Pokemon to let her know that not every single anime is violent, some ARE made for kids, but make her understand that lots are made for older teens too. Maybe also show her something a little nicer than Death Note, more warm and fuzzy like Fruits Basket which is about relationships instead of mass murder. Show her that Death Note is not the only thing out there, that there are nicer and younger animes too.



Also try to explain to her that even if you are a teenager, it doesn't mean you can automatically drop anything labeled "childish" like watching cartoons. These are your interests and you aren't going to stop liking them just cause you got a day older. And trust me, don't go trying to stop liking it cause you'll just end up bored and miserable. Would a football fanatic stop going to the games just because his friend prefers painting over sports? Heck no! It's better to be ridiculed for the things you love than thought of as normal for doing things you hate!



But keep in mind, if your mom is actually racist, she probably won't be easily swayed, even if you give her good evidence to support you, she will still be stuck in the thought that anything "asian" is bad. I hope you can help change her mind about this. Good luck!
Alli
2011-04-04 20:15:13 UTC
Well.. That's racist.

Anyways, there are so many manga and anime sites, (she couldn't of blocked them all) so find a few, and CLEAR YOUR HISTORY!!!

Also, if you have an ipod touch or internet phone, you can watch anime from them. Though subbed gets a bit difficult seeing as how the subtitles are tiny. Try some of these sites.

realitylapse.com

crunchyroll.com

bleachexile.com

Etc, etc. Google is your friend, and she didn't block youtube did she?
pauline♄
2011-04-05 02:34:13 UTC
keep it a secret from her !!
Jazka
2011-04-04 20:52:47 UTC
Explain that there are lots of different types of anime. You could probably find an anime in just about every genre out there and that Death Note is just one of the many animes out there.



You also should explain that not all anime is aimed towards kids. There are a lot of animes out there that wouldn't be appropriate for people younger than you.



Besides - what exactly does she have against Asian people? If she won't or can't change that mindset, maybe try and reassure her that you just watch it, that you're not going to start copying what the characters do or something like that.
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:16:22 UTC
If she's a racist, then I doubt there is much that you can do to prevent it. But if you can, sit down with her and have her explain why she thinks you shouldn't be watching it. If you have to, pull up articles from wikipedia or other sights about the origin of anime and manga and how it is usually geared towards older teens and adults.



You can also give examples how they are used as a means of self-esteem boosts as there are good stories about real life occurrences in peoples' lives.



If you have to show her proof of these types of anime, I would pick something on a lighter scale with a more adult setting. Or something fun and up beat.
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:15:15 UTC
well first of all, explain to her that anime comes in many different genres. not all is about murder and such. second of all, where we live, this is a melting pot where all cultures meet. your mother is being judgemental. convince her to give anime a chance. tell her that not all asians have bad ideas. remind her that many cultures have ideas that are different. What you should do is ask her why she dislikes it. ask why she has a certain view on asians. remind her that you are 16 years old and that you know what's right for you. be firm and be coonstructive. also, anime is not cartoons. it's a cultural thing. in a way you're learning about another cultural and society. she can't argue against that. and the art form of anime interesting. why should she argue against creativity?..try to show her anime that isn't like death note but is still mature. if she does come across other anime that is innapropiate advise her how music and american movies come in different genres and just because one movie is innapropiate doesn't mean all american movies are. use analogies and above all, don't get defensive or rebellious.
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:45:08 UTC
I would start with a explanation of why you like anime. It could be because you like the artwork, or the story lines, or just have a fetish for animated things. Whatever it is, you should assert that you don't like it because it's about death and murder, and reaffirm that if those things do excite you, there are other outlets created by Americans (who might be Asian... but not the point) that are just as violent, graphic, and bloody, if not more so. If you dare, you might want to point out that her behavior is slightly racist (I say slightly just to soften the blow, since no offense your mom displayed full-on racism there).



Now, I would use said anime in question as a base. You probably know that, if you take a M&M from a bag and eat it, if it tastes bad, it's more likely that M&M, not the bag itself. You don't throw away the bag because of one, you try another. Basically, you can point out to your mom that not all anime is like Death Note, where it explicitly has lots of blood and violence. Reaching into the bag that is the anime universe, you could easily just as well pull out Ouran High School Host Club, which has it's reverse harem and LGBT issues (does your mom have problems against those?), or you could pull out Naruto, which is basically harmless, and the only real issue is that they use magic and are ninjas, but you should ignore that for the point of the show.



Also, talk about Death Note in the sense that it got a section of the Japanese public discussing what the limits of capital punishment should be, and when it's alright to take a life. Light is never criticized for his first two killings (both in defense, I might add); but, is it defense when he kills so people are afraid to commit crimes? Also, Death Note is mentally stimulation, and keeps you guessing for the entire series. That's more than could be said about some American things. 300? We know how that ends. Inglourious Basterds? Same mentality as Kira, kinda, in justifying Nazi-slaying. So, basically, point out the double standard.
anonymous
2016-03-02 03:12:05 UTC
If you think that part of what you're mother says is true, then you shouldn't do it. If you REALLY feel the need to watch it, Show you're mother some anime such as Sailor Moon, Fruits Basket, or PreTear. These 3 anime series are all child friendly with no blood or gore in them.
?
2011-04-04 21:22:03 UTC
Anime is a kind of film making, just as silent movies, talkies, color film, and 3D are. There are many different kinds of stories shown, and many different styles. Just as there are many kinds of styles of Hollywood movies -- drama, detectives, police, horror, mystery, comedy, romance.



What kinds of movies does she like, and is she willing to see what has been done in the anime medium? Some special effects are done better with animation, although sometimes the style is simplicity (I've seen one where people in the background become a cone and a circle).



See if she's willing to rent and watch the Studio Ghibli films which Disney has been distributing. I haven't checked which of these are available from Netflix, but if you use Netflix there is quite an anime assortment there. Some good series are also on Hulu, and Hulu is definitely not an anime-oriented site.



For that matter, if she's a Netflix user, you can search for a movie type and add "anime" and see what is suggested...find something she might like. Do the searching for her, so she doesn't have to wade through stuff she doesn't care for.



You can see summaries of many of these things on WIkipedia, so you can be prepared to discuss what you find interesting about the style, characters, culture, and plot.



Start with "Kiki's Delivery Service", as that is a very western environment. How does it compare to other stories about witches? How often do you see a witch learning? Why does that world accept magic users casually yet there are so few?



"Steamboy" is very western -- it ends up in London of a hundred years ago.



"Planetes" is the most realistic representation of space flight. They were careful to try to do the physics correctly. It's about space debris collectors. Really.



There's anime about many things. Basketball, baseball, roller skating, snowboarding, Adam-12 type of police ("You're Under Arrest!"), kids playing with robot dolls ("Angelic Layer"), a kid who is allergic to cats but has to help cats ("Nyan Koi!").



"Howl's Moving Castle" is entertaining, and I love the door. You'll know which door when you see it.



"Laputa: Castle in the Sky" is very popular.



Consider "Ah, My Goddess" on Hulu. It's a romantic comedy inspired by "Bewitched", and the situation is similar to "I Dream of Jeannie". Does your mother remember those, and how similar are those shows to this one? (The first episode is slow because they're showing us what kind of guy the boy is) Do you remember learning about the gods and mythologies of several cultures? Look up Belldandy's inspiration from a Norse goddess. Try to keep track of how many different mythological and religious and magical common beliefs and behaviors the creator has jumbled together...this is entertainment, not an attempt to follow a certain theology. Laugh and discuss.



Has your mother seen "The Addams Family" and did she like it? Also on Hulu is "My Bride is a Mermaid" (unfortunately, subtitled -- I think there are dubbed DVDs available). The first episode starts as if it is a retelling of "The Little Mermaid" story, but then things start going zany.



Many adults still enjoy Wile E. Coyote's chasing of the Roadrunner. On Crunchyroll.com, the 2010 show "Squid Girl" is available in subtitled form (free registration required). She's a squid who wants to conquer the world, but as an ignorant girl squid she has many problems.



Another Ghibli film is "Spirited Away", where a modern Japanese girl accidentally wanders into the land of the Shinto gods. That might be too japanese a movie, but if she has seen it and liked it, the short "Kamichu!" anime series (DVD only, I think) has a similar flavor -- a middle school girl realizes she became a Shinto god, and explores her new situation.



A very Japanese movie is "Princess Mononoke", full of great art but woven around hints of culture which is unfamiliar to we in the U.S. I watched it by just letting the story flow by as it unfolded. A good story, although as unfamiliar as the first time you heard of Hansel and Gretel.
green meklar
2011-04-04 22:48:56 UTC
Have her watch K-On. It's pretty much the polar opposite of Death Note and about as family-friendly as anime ever gets.
?
2011-04-04 20:37:55 UTC
Watch The Matrix, and it will all make sense. You take the blue pill. The story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill. You stay in wonderland and I'll show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. The red pill=Freedom and Truth. The blue pill=Deception and brainwashing. They want a new world order and would destroy us all to make it happen!
Nova
2016-11-28 03:29:57 UTC
If cartoons are only for kids according to her, then she should look up "hentai".
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:22:28 UTC
Sneak it
anonymous
2011-04-04 20:06:56 UTC
Punch that *****.



Asians are smart and SHE'A the racist.


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